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अमेरिकामा भुटानी शरणार्थी युवकद्वारा आत्महत्या

December 7, 2013

अमेरिकाको म्यारिल्याण्ड राज्यको बाल्टिमोरमा नेपालबाट पुनर्स्थापनाको लागि अमेरिका ल्याइएका एक युवकले आत्महत्या गरेका छन्।

पारिवारिक स्रोतका अनुसार २१ बर्षीय चन्द्र क्षेत्री सोमबार घर छाडी हिँडेका थिए। परिवारलाई कुनै पनि शंका मनमा नरहेको र काममा सधैको जस्तै हिँडेको भन्ने ठानेको थियो। सोमबार काममा हिँडेका उनी मंगलबार बेलुकासम्म पनि घर नफर्किएपछि प्रहरीलाई मंगलबार साँझ ८ बजे परिवारले खबर गरेको थियो। करिब बुधबार १० बजे प्रहरीले उनी चढेको गाडी रुख नजिकै लुकाएर राखिएको अवस्थामा भेटिएको खबर गरेको थियो।

प्रहरीले ११ बजे त्यही दिन २१ बर्षीय चन्द्र क्षेत्रीले सानो रुखमा घाँटीमा पासो लगाई आत्महत्या गरेको पुष्टि भएको जानकारी परिवारलाई दिएको थियो। क्षेत्रीले प्रयोग गरेको डोरी वालमार्टबाट किनेर लगेको बुझिएको छ। १९९२ मा भुटानको गोम्तु भन्ने ठाउँमा जन्मेका क्षेत्री नोवेम्बर २१, २००९ देखि बाल्टिमोरमा बस्दै आएका थिए भने उनका बुबाआमा खेम क्षेत्री र सुनिता क्षेत्री, भाइ कृष्ण तथा बहिनी मीना साथमै बस्थे। क्षेत्रीको पार्थिव शरीरको दाहसंस्कार गरिसकिएको छ।

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विजय थापा भर्जिनिया, मंसिर २०

From → History

  1. Bhuwan Gautam
    Suicide is the manifestation of suppressed thoughts which comes out in the form of volcanic eruption. Research and investigation enough can’t prevent suicide at this point unless but certainly work towards minimizing it. When the word suicide comes to my mind, I think that there must be something wrong with that person where no one understood his feelings… poor Mr./Ms. X or Y. It is not uncommon for Bhutanese folks to commit or attempt to commit suicide in Bhutan or in Refugee camps in Nepal. No one did research on why people committed suicide back in Bhutan or Nepal but it is found from the neighbors and friends that there were always some sorts of long and chronic relationship issues. Some of the issues are: Social strata where there was strong caste system, inter-caste marriage was and still is a taboo, extra marital affair was very strong taboo in a collective society. I do think that the other stressors like social isolation, family roles reversal and in educate culturally appropriate services and re-socialization in adaptation in the transitional phase but don’t actually determine the concrete stressors of the suicidal rates. The Behavioral service provides ask direct questions like do you have thoughts of hurting yourself? Thoughts of hurting someone? Social isolation/withdrawal? Spousal Abuse? Physical Abuse? fear of going crazy? and so on. These types of questions will not help the Psychiatrist or Psychologist to diagnose the patient. They are reluctant to answer those direct questions because of the following reasons:
    1. They were not accessed to any behavioral counseling. They believe that their thoughts are unheard and everyone talks against them.
    2. Domestic Violence is very strong issue and there are lots of tensions and emotional triggers came across due to the role reversal. Bhutanese have a tradition to keep the family/domestic matters secret as they are collective society. It takes very long time for illiterate family to educate about the world of counseling.
    3. They will not answer any questions if they don’t have faith on the interviewers.
    To Community Leaders: Bhutanese refugees trust their neighbors, faith based leaders and community leaders and are likely to take their advices rather than the strangers. Expose refugees to temples, churches, institutions and social gatherings. Make arrangement for people to meet and talk on regular basis. Work with resettlement agencies or other social organizations to garner support and educate them about how they can provide culturally appropriate services among such population.
    Refugee Stakeholders: Hospitals and mental health providers, resettlement agencies and other stakeholders should train their workers to provide technical assistance and work with the aforementioned groups to bridge the service gap.
    Conclusion: Suicide is a temporary thing in Bhutanese community, this trend will not continue in the same rate for long as the new generation will go to school, socialize and adapt to the mainstream American Society. But in order to minimize the high suicidal rates among the Bhutanese refugees, its everyone’s’ responsibility.

  2. Bhairav permalink

    Kamana Khadka
    Although this is a very difficult topic, without doubt, it is a very important one.
    I am sure when the Bhutanese who were forced to flee their country of birth, Bhutan, and live in substandard conditions in the camps in Nepal, were offered to move to one of the most developed countries in the world, the United States of America, they were overjoyed. Overjoyed because they saw future for themselves, overjoyed because they saw even brighter future for their kids, and overjoyed because God had finally answered their prayers. But once they arrive in the United States, the joy did not last too long. They faced all the challenges that all the other refugee communities face in the United States. The survey showed that among the most common post-migration difficulties were language barriers (77%), worries about family back home (57%), separation from family (43%), and difficulty maintaining cultural and religious traditions (43%). Although these are similar issues faced by almost all the refugee communities in the United States, the fact that suicide rates are comparatively higher among the Bhutanese Refugee clearly states that our programs for the refugees should be customized rather than being generalized. Although the socioeconomic status of the refugee starting out in a new country might be the same, his/her cultural background is completely different…even with refugees from same communities. If working at a slaughter house works for a Bhutanese who is a Christian that might not work for a Bhutanese who is a Hindu because cow is considered sacred in Hindu religion. So no matter how much bad the household economic condition is for a Hindu, he/she will never work at a slaughter house. But not all the employment specialists are trained to identify such cultural bumps.
    I did like the key recommendations made in this report but having said that I also thought that the recommendations were directed heavily to the act of “suicide” and not really focusing on resolving the issues around why people are committing suicides and its prevention. It is always good to get the cow before it leaves the barn. Below are my thoughts:
    • Use of Trained Professional Interpreters at every social and healthcare setting. This will allow the communities to take charge of their health and life, hence empowering themselves and keeping their roles in the families as they don’t have to ask their kids to interpret for them. 77% listed language barriers as one of their post-migration struggles.
    • Create culturally and linguistically appropriate programs for seniors as there are a lot of seniors in the Bhutanese communities that consider themselves useless and feel like a bird in a cage.
    • Provide long-term case management.
    • Pay attention to vulnerable groups in the Bhutanese community. For example understand the cultural implications of being a widow in this community and what it means or being disabled.
    I really think that understanding of culture will help us really understand the needs in the community. So far we have been helping with projects we think they need in order to adapt to the new lifestyles in a new country, how about asking them first about their needs and giving them what they need not what we think they do. Lets respect each other and help maintain each other’s dignity by offering a meaningful helping hands. After all the fight of a refugee is so that he/she would live a respectful life not a life where he/she is always at a mercy of others…
    October 30, 2012 at 8:12 pm

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